Good instincts usually tell you what to do before your head has figured it out” – Michael Burke.
Having good instincts is a gift we should all be blessed with. But some of us need to learn the A-B-Cs of basics good instincts. They aren’t just for toddlers. It seems most of us, from time to time, need to brush up on our good instinct basics. That is if we want to parent our children successfully.
The reason why parents sometimes forget their A-B-Cs of good instincts is because life gets in the way. There are too many demands and time is always in short supply. So we short change and ignore the very people we are responsible for and love and strive so hard to nurture.
Once in a while I think it’s a good idea, to put time on hold, turn off the racing engines of your minds and think of how you can interact with your kids on a conscious level. Take time to attend to their mental and emotional needs and give them your undivided time and attention on a regular bases.
So here is some free common sense advice for parents of every hue. Take it for what it’s worth. It has often pointed me in the right and saved the day. I am sure it will do the same for you. It’s time well spent developing your own ‘good instinct’ muscle by making sure you learn your A-B-Cs well. It’s easy to do and very necessary. You’ll be glad you did. You’ll see!
Good Example
Not only will the kids benefit but you will too. Make it a regular and conscious practice to recharge your batteries by reconnecting with your children on a deliberate and conscious level. It will pay huge dividends immediately and down the road, for both of you. Remember you will be setting a good example for your children to follow when they are parents.
Children have never been very good at listening to their parents but they never fail to imitate them – James Baldwin
Learn Your A B Cs Well
A – Accepting your child unconditionally with all his warts and all
B- Believing in your child and nurturing his abilities and his potential
C – Communicating with your child keeping all channels fine tuned and open
D – Discussing all things big and small openly no matter how difficult or painful
E – Encouraging resilience and the ability to pick himself up after a fall or two
F – Finding common ground, no matter how deep the difference and big the divide
G – Giving age appropriate responsibilities for a sense of accomplishment
H – Helping them understand success and failure go hand in hand
I – Instilling respect for his body, it’s the only one he will ever have
J -Joy in your child, in his uniqueness, in his possibilities and his very being
There you have it. If you are a parent memorize your A-B-Cs. It will see you through the rough patches of child rearing but only if you take the time to learn them well. Don’t forget to enter your name and email in the box below and I will make sure you get the rest of the A-B-Cs all the way to Z
Nurture your instincts so you can be a phenomenal parent. Of course this is only a miniscule part of the myriad of things we parents have to keep learning. Come back soon and see what other lessons we can learn together.
As always my very best.
Till the next time.
Me!